Healthy Living - 4

GREEN AMARANTH LEAVES

It is called Amaranth for short. Popularly called Green in Nigerian markets. Can be

Healthy Living - 3

HONEY

I can't remember the last time i took sugar, it's been years. I use honey for

Tuesday Motivation: THE DEVELOPER

Brian Acton had an Ivy league education. He had learnt from the best at Stanford. He went on to work for

LET'S BODY SHAME YOU

I was going through a site; the site had pictures of a female artiste on it. I went to the comment section and I saw

DO YOU KNOW NIGERIA? - 2

THE SUKUR CULTURAL LANDSCAPE

You are looking at the picture and wondering, is this place in Nigeria? Yes  it is. The Sukur cultural landscape has existed since the 16th Century. You heard right. 16th century. This place is also

HEALTHY LIVING - 2

GROUNDNUT

Groundnut or peanut or Arachis hypogaea is in season now. I don't know if it's just in Lagos but I see it everywhere.
Groundnut can be

Heart and Love: LOVE AND JEALOUSY

  Ije had had her bad luck with men. She’d seen them all and she was tired. Luckily ,Love wasn’t done with her. Jesse came along and

Motivation Tuesday : VISION BRINGS PROVISION

Have you ever heard that Vision brings provision? I heard that a while back at a lecture given by a successful business man who owns

BRING NIGERIA DOWN AND STOMP ON HER

Arise o compatriots, Nigeria’s call obey.....

They better scrap the national anthem because it has become a sham. No one is ready to obey any call or die for Nigeria and there’s no

DO YOU KNOW NIGERIA?: 1

OSUN-OSOGBO GROVE

Do you know the Osun-Osogbo Sacred Grove is listed on the Unesco World Heritage list? Same list that has the fields of the pyramids of Egypt and much more.

Outstanding Universal Value

Brief synthesis 

A century ago there were

HEALTHY LIVING : 1

CORN

It's corn season!!! You can have it in all forms; roast, baked and boiled. We all see this yummy goodness when it comes around but do you

Heart and Love: WHEN THEY LOVE YOU NO MORE

Growing up, I could never understand when I saw in the movies, TV shows, magazines etc., people saying that they don’t love someone anymore. That thing just

Motivation Tuesday: HOLD ON

Ade was tired. Nothing seemed to be working. His mates did the same things he did and they succeeded, for him the story was

THAT LITTLE VOICE

Growing up and hearing via news and films about certain cases of people who committed murder and them saying a voice in their head told them

ALL MEN CHEAT

  The title wasn't my speech. I was on my own trying to mind my business and my overactive ears picked up a conversation tables away.
  The lady was in tears, telling her friends about how she had caught her guy cheating; she'd found explicit chats and what not between him and other girls.
  Her friends consoled her and told her to have expected it, that all men cheat and it's in a man's nature to cheat. They are all like

DO YOU LOVE NUMBER ONE?

  I was discussing with a friend during the week and she asked a question ‘How do you love others without hurting yourself?’ It got me thinking a lot. I know the general rule is that ‘Love is Blind’ and ‘Love hurts’. Well, that’s the general rule, not mine. My own rules and observations in my short existence in the world of humans are that;

1)   Love is not blind. It sees the good, the bad and the ugly of the person receiving the love. Love doesn’t deceive you or pull

HELP INCOMING?

  Have you ever been at a crossroad? Have you ever reached out to people around you for help and no one looked your way?

Well my post is for you.

  Femi had a dream, a passion burning within him. He wanted to pursue this dream. Everyone tried to discourage him. They said he was stupid that it would never work. He’s nobody, he’s not even a celebrity, so who would buy into his dream. Femi reached out to his friends and family members, some promised to help. He waited on them but help never came. He called and called, went to their offices, houses but they only gave him words. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months and months into a year. The people he had counted on; the friends, aunties and uncles had let him down. Femi was distraught. His dream was dying before his eyes. One day,

IS HOPE ENOUGH?

  I hear people say all the time;
 "We hope for the best."
 "All we can do is hope."
 "There is nothing we can do but hope and pray."

 What then is your definition of Hope?

 ‘To have a wish to get or do something or for something to happen or be true, especially something that seems possible or likely.’   
      
 ‘A feeling that something desirable is likely to happen’.   
   
The above definitions are according to the Encarta dictionary.

  Should you keep waiting for a wish to get or

IT’S NOT A SPIRITUAL ATTACK, IT’S LUPUS

I was invited to an event on 10^th May, 2017 and was told it was World Lupus Day. I wondered what Lupus was, yes Google is my friend but I decided to go hear from the doctors and satiate my curiosity.  I remember reading a while ago that Selena Gomez, yes the singer, had Lupus. This event was organized by the Rheumatology Unit of the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH) under the leadership of Femi Adelowo, who is a Professor of Medicine and consultant Rheumatologist at Lasuth, President of the African League of Associations of Rheumatology (AFLAR) and Chairman, Executive committee of World Body of Rheumatology (ILAR). Impressive, right?

 Prof. finally satiated my curiosity with his speech.

What is Lupus? You ask

YOUR WORST ENEMY

   Michael flew from one church to the other. He was told his mother was a witch, another said he was dealing with an ancestral curse. He heard one story or the other everywhere he went. Michael is handsome, brilliant and was voted the most likely to succeed in his high school. He is thirty now and stuck in the same dead beat job he got after he passed out of the NYSC programme. The plan had been to work for two or three years and then start up his company. It’s been eight years now and he is still there. He had applied for other jobs but never got any. He had told his friends and family his plan but they all told him to

PATIENCE AND TIME.

Patience, that ability to wait, to endure, to tolerate, is really a virtue. I know that very well maybe better than most because I lose it sometimes. Sometimes, patience can seem like stupidity but it is

SHE STOLE MY MAN

She stole my man could also be, he stole my woman or she stole my woman, lol.

  You’re in a relationship, marriage or you feel there’s some connection between you two. You’re happy everything is going really well then suddenly there’s a change in your partner’s behaviour; he doesn’t call as he used to, he’s always too busy to see you or something else. In some other cases, there’s no change in behaviour and then WHAM! It feels like you got a heavy knock on the head. You make a discovery via a

THE VALENTINE DAY SCAM

  When I was a little girl, one question always boggled my mind whenever Valentine’s Day approached; ‘Who is this Valentine?’ I never got the answer until I went to a missionary school for my higher education and ran into a gorgeous book titled ‘The book of Saints’ in our Vice Principal’s office. I felt like a fat kid in a candy shop. My little mind and fingers scoured the pages and found him. (I searched for my patron saint first though. Lots of St. Frances) There’s more than a Saint Valentine. The church doesn’t really have much info on them but they all died (martyred) on February 14.

  There were three of them; One was a missionary in Africa, the second a bishop in now, Terni, Italy and the last a priest in Rome.  The second and the third are

DON'T BE A BELLO OR A ROCHAS

THE BIRTHDAY LIST

  So my birthday is on Monday, January 22^nd. Days back, someone asked me what’s on my birthday list. I said I didn’t have a list and got a reaction that said “You’re an alien.”

  A birthday list is cool. It helps people who don’t know what to get you know what to get you. It kind of makes the job easier. You can do ojukokoro(greed) and add really expensive or hard to get gifts if you are wealthy and expect people to follow what’s on your list alone and share the list around to make sure people get you gifts you want. 

  

  To me, it kind of takes away the spontaneity and

FORGIVING YOU AND THEM

Hi there,
  Today I'm sharing my thoughts on forgiveness via video. I hope you watch and you are blessed by it one way or the other.
Here's the link if the video doesn't show on your browser.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zaINSYk-njY

Thank you for watching my thoughts, what are yours? 

NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS SUCK

 George was overweight and needed to lose some weight. The New Year approached and he made a resolution; “This New Year, I will join a gym.” He joined a gym, truthfully. He went to the gym every day. He’d go out and be offered cake, Ice-cream, fried chicken and many more yummy treats. He turned them all down. One day in February, it was a colleague’s birthday at the office. A red velvet cake was shared; George had a thing for red velvet. “A tiny slice won’t kill me.” He ate the cake happily. Days later, his alarm rang to tell him ‘gym time’. George shut

GRATEFUL

  In the beginning of each year, asides New Year resolutions, most make plans for the year. Now, the year is ending, they reflect and check if they achieved their goals or not. I just want to tell you, it doesn’t matter if you didn’t.
  It’s easy to focus on the big things you wanted and planned, to look at other people you feel got what you wanted, living the life you want and almost go green with envy. First, you are in competition with no one but yourself. Everyone has a different

HAPPINESS AND COUPLES’ FULFILLMENT

I woke up this morning pissed after I had heard that the Oil marketers had decided to cheat innocent Nigerians out of enjoying the yuletide season by hiking the fuel price.

My displeasure turned into laughter when I read in the Punch Newspaper that Governor Rochas Okorocha of Imo state has appointed twenty-eight new commissioners. That is not funny, I know. The funny part is the name of the new ministry he just created out of nowhere and placed his biological sister at the helm. The ministry is called

DATING TODAY=?

In today’s world the word ‘Dating’ has become synonymous to sex and a relationship. Dating used to be a get to know period. A time you ask the important questions and see if you are both compatible then move it a step further towards courtship then marriage.

Dating is the first step for seeking out a life partner. Now, it’s just for the fun of it. No goals, no purpose.

Dating now means, ‘in a relationship’ with someone. Scratch that, ‘in a sexual relationship.’

Well, you see people who are supposedly dating and date for years then they tell you’ I can’t marry her’ , ‘I can’t marry him’.

Why be in a relationship with that person in the first place? Call me old school but dating isn’t an exclusive relationship. I can go on dates and get to know three men or more, ask questions, study them all.  If any fits, we move on to courtship. I don’t understand why people do things without purpose. Or why dating which is the first step should take years, months and have sex involved in it.

Some guys now, thanks to the times, ask you out, then tell you they want to date you to get you into the stage of we are boyfriend, girlfriend just so they can have sex with you. When you say, you don’t want to have sex, you hear things like;

“What are we dating for?”

“It’s what people who date do.”

“Are you not my girlfriend?”

If you are not ready to get married or not looking for a life-mate what then is your purpose as a man or woman for dating in the first place?

Dating like I said earlier was a get to know period. Sex was never part of it. Throwing sex into it blurs the lines between the dating and courtship period and then you believe you have moved on to courtship and you keep expecting and hoping he marries you.

When you go into it with a purpose, in the first three dates you both have, you should have a better understanding and can tell from the little but important questions to you that you have asked,  if you both align and if you’d consider moving it a step further.

Dating is getting to know if we can and not that we are in a relationship and sex must and should happen.

Asking a lady out on a date is termed romantic because you are interested in her as a woman and you are searching for a life- mate for the future and not because sex is on the table that day and you just want to bang that hot body you see for the months and years you’d be in a relationship. I think you should date with a plan, not for the fun of it and not with the flow. Why date if you are not ready to get married?

Then when the girl you have been sleeping with and have been in a relationship with, that has given you time, affection, care, sex, sometimes money, cleaned and cooked for you for months or years asks you “what’s the plan for the future?”, you run away, end things and say she was trying to force you to marry her or putting on demands, pressure, bla bla bla.  Biko, what was your plan, the timeline in the first place?

Dating should be a time for discovering a little about the life principles and character of the other person and it shouldn’t take months. You can date more than one man or woman when it’s platonic and it’s just get to know.

Maybe, I’m the one who is confused by today’s world were certain words have lost their true meanings and have become diluted and now mean something entirely different.

If you decide you want to date but don’t have marriage or forever in view or you just want to have sex and fun, ask the person you are planning on doing that with if they want the same thing. If you are both on the same page, have at it. Tomorrow, you won’t hear talks on marriage from him or her.

I think I’ll talk about the term ‘Hanging out’ in my next post.

Thank you for reading my thoughts. What are yours?