THIS RUDE NIGERIAN GIRL

"WOMEN NEED TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO"

Pardon my French before I commence, rude girls speak it. This shall be a long ass post.

So, I was at the gym .  A lady and I started a conversation. She was talking about how her closest friend

ARE YOU GUILTY OF THIS?

I was reading a Joyce Meyer book titled ‘THE SECRET TO TRUE HAPPINESS’ and something she said  resonated deeply within me and so I decided to share.

“Where personal interactions are concerned, the prevailing message of our day seems to go something like this:

 “ If you suit me perfectly; if you never make mistakes; If you always treat me right; if you do everything just the way I want you to, then I will applaud you and receive you into my life. I will like you, love you and accept you. But if you make mistakes, even if I let you stay in my life, the very least I will do is let you know you made a mistake, because I certainly wouldn’t want you to think you’re getting away with anything. I cannot let anything slide without giving you a warning or, at the very least, a little dose of rejection because if I let anything slide you might think you can just do it again and again”.

The problem with the attitude I just described is it’s

THE MIND READERS CLUB

 

 You might often hear people in relationships say,

‘How could he get me this perfume? He is my boyfriend. He should know what I like.’
‘Why would she make me pasta, she should know better?’
‘I don’t think he loves me. If he does, why doesn’t he know what I like?’
‘She doesn’t know my favourite colour. I know all the things she likes.’
‘He doesn’t know what to get me for my birthday. He wants me to tell him what to buy for me. He is my man, he should know.’
‘I drink coffee but she got me tea.’
‘She couldn’t tell I was not happy.’
‘He should know I just want to be held.’
‘Couldn’t he tell I had a bad day at work?’
‘She should know how I feel.’

  It goes on and on and on. In most relationships, we have the talker and we have the listener. One partner keeps

WHO DEFINES PERFECTION?

    We look for it everywhere. In our lives, in others. We look for it in our jobs, our parents, our children, our spouses, and our academic lives and in our relationships. It is the one thing that makes us equals, that search for perfection. The question I ask is; Is there really anything like perfection? We want a perfect job but can we have that alone and be satisfied? If we get it, that is when we realise that there is another part of our lives that needs tweaking up. A perfect life is the one thing that we are always in search of. We are never satisfied with what we have. We want more and better. No one is perfect, though some people seem to think they are and tend to judge others for not living up to their idea of perfection.
    So, what is perfection? Who sets the standard and says what is perfect or not? What and who defines a perfect relationship, a perfect

Heart and Love: HE LOVES ME BUT CHEATS ON ME

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So, I was in a BRT bus and overheard two women discussing in French. They probably thought no one would be able to understand them. One was talking about how her man had

MAKING MISTAKES

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  Festus was nice, giving and somewhat an introvert. People thought him weird, could

MORE THAN WORDS

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  In the old days, a man was as good as his word. People would say of him "he’s a man of honour.", if a man gave his word and kept it. A man’s word was

Heart and Love: PASTOR SAYS HE'S THE ONE.

I have an old post relating to this ; REVELATIONS

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  Thought about it again when I read somewhere online about a woman complaining about her marriage. She said

THE DEVIL CREATED THE LEFT HAND

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I went to a grocery store to buy some things. I selected the things I needed and walked over to the cash stand. The woman behind the stand, who happened to be the

ME TOO?

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Tina stared at the TV screen; she didn’t notice her hands were shaking. She was back in that room,

WHAT WE HEARD ABOUT HIM

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  David and Paul were friends. It never made sense to people why they were. David was smart and reserved. Paul was the

WHAT IS LOVE AND WHY DOES IT END

Ever heard that sentence ‘Everything was so perfect in the beginning.’?

  In the beginning everything is very rosy. You meet this person and stars erupt, this person becomes a mystery. The way they

IF MEN ARE HUNTERS...

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We have all heard this cliche sentence, it falls on both genders but i will look at it as it's been used for generations.

If men are hunters what

IS HELP COMING?

Is there really light at the end of that tunnel?

LIFE IS A B**** (A True Life Story on Marriage)

That's what they say, that life is a......

WHY NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS SUCK AND FAIL

Still standing by that resolution? Why do they always fail before the first quarter of the New Year?

LETTING GO OF 2020 AND HER DRAMA

It's a New Year!

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GENDER ROLES, MODERNIZATION & THE DIVORCE RATE (Nigerian marriages in view)

GOD IS ALSO A WOMAN; ADAM IS NOT THE FIRST MAN

THE STATE OF ORIGIN QUESTION

I WROTE THIS IN 2017

“What is your state of origin?”

  Right from primary school, I have always detested being asked that or her brother, “Where are you from?” 

BITTERNESS AND RESENTMENT

 Are you bitter and resentful without knowing it?

HOW TO SURVIVE A PEACEFUL PROTEST

It is easier to write it here, so I will put the how to’s here. 

We all know what’s happening in the country. Things might get grittier just like it does with every protest all around the world. Things may get out of hand.

So, “Frances, how do I survive a peaceful protest?” you ask.

BEFORE THE PROTEST

This is for before you leave home to head to wherever the protest will hold.

1) Please do not go alone. Have a friend or colleague or family member you know going there too. 

Ogun State Governor, BBN's Laycon and the Stolen Gift

Is a gift always a gift no matter the means?

That Kano to Niger railway

Why is this important?

MOVING ON : REJECTION

First one in 2020!

YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT

Don't believe...

LEAVE NO NUDES AND PAPER TRAIL

PAUSE!  

MR AND MRS JUDGINA

Year 2017

COMPARE NOT

My thoughts from 2016.

WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?

My first one ever! Hope it helps you somewhat.